Here are links to many sites that offer lists of questions. These questions can lead to valuable conversations, prayers and journaling. As a coupld you can owsrk on these and then take the matters you are having troubles with to your pastor, couposelor and/or a mature couple you both respect.
http://marriage.about.com/od/engagement/ss/tenquestions.htm
http://www.marriagemissions.com/premarriage/called_together.php
http://www.questionsforcouples.com/
http://www.questionsforcouples.com/collection6.htm
http://www.familyfirst.net/marriage/mmquiz.htm
http://journalingquestionshub.blogspot.com/
http://www.prepare-enrich.com/couples.cfm?id=34